Over the past 7 months I have learned that Karen and I have different opinions on almost everything. Most of it is religious and political and has nothing to do with Shelby. I am certain that she cares for Shelby and that Shelby loves her. She has taught Shelby so many things and includes her in a lot of their family activities too.
Here is my problem: Last night Shelby and I were playing with her dollhouse and she took one of the dolls and told him to stand in the corner. I have never done that to Shelby (and never would) so I asked her about it and she said Karen makes her stand in the corner. So then I said "does Karen hit you?" and she said "spank bottom" and patted her bottom. Now, I do not spank Shelby. I think hitting a child teaches them that hitting is ok. I have been known to swat her hand when she was reaching for the hot stove, but I have never spanked her. I am not anti-spanking for other people, I think every parent has to make their own informed decision, but it's not the kind of discipline I want to practice and it's CERTAINLY not something I want someone else to do to my child.
What do I do? My first reaction was to call Karen right away and confront her about it. But then I started thinking . . .Shelby is two. She says a lot of stuff. One time she told me a horse bit her hand . . .the horse was across the street behind a fence! She has a big imagination, and I wonder how much of what she says to take to heart.
I consider Karen a friend of mine and don't want to hurt her feelings by accusing her of something that may not be true, but I also don't want her disciplining my child by hitting her or making her stand in the corner.